1. 23:16 12th Sep 2014

    Notes: 161

    Reblogged from angryasiangirlsunited

    angryasiangirlsunited:

    Hello to the mods at AngryAsianGirlsUnited.. I am submitting this through my friends tumblr which she gave me permission to use-you can also contact me through it I felt a bit weird just setting up a tumblr just for this. I felt this needed to be said. For context I am British Japanese. It was my…

    A long, but interesting read.

     
  2. 22:56 4th Sep 2014

    Notes: 364

    Reblogged from thatbadadvice

    Anonymous said: hello i need ur help this guy we are super duper close bffs & we joke around a lot, & we were talking & playing around as usual & i said something sexual as a joke but he replied "god youre so fucking hot" & then proceeded to tell me that he was horny & asked for pics. so me being me i was like um no im sorry (( because i dont roll like that )) & then he started being mean & i feel like i disappointed him & i hate letting people down but i dont wanna send nudes :-( help please

    thatbadadvice:

    Readers won’t stop sending the Bad Advisor their real-ass questions to answer, so the Bad Advisor is periodically going to try her hand at answering them.

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    What is it you like best about your great relationship with your super duper close BFF, letter writer? Is it how he pressures you into doing things that you’re not comfortable with? Is it how he’s “mean” when you don’t comply with his sexual demands? Is it how he holds the good things hostage until you show him that his needs, rather than yours, are your first priority?

    Bad Advisor knows that sounds harsh, LW, but the Bad Advisor gets the impression that you are a tough cookie, LW. Because you stood your ground: you don’t roll like that when someone asks you for nude photos. You especially don’t roll like that when a manipulative, selfish dude asks you for nude photos. You have fantabulous instincts. You should stick with them, because they are doing right by you.

    Here’s what: a real friend, a true super duper BFF will never be “let down” when you don’t provide them with sexual gratification—moreover, a kind of sexual gratification that is not only not at all pleasurable for you but in fact puts you in a great deal of potential danger and which makes you deeply uncomfortable. If you’re a teenager, you yourself can be prosecuted for taking nude photos of yourself! (Let us leave a discussion of the logic of this fact for another day.)

    If you’re out of the age-related-prosecution-woods, (or if you’re not) you must understand that the likelihood of your “super duper BFF” being the only human on planet earth ever to see the nude photo you send is PRACTICALLY ZERO. Either your “super duper BFF”—who, let’s remember is holding his niceness and friendship hostage as leverage to make you do something you don’t want to do that takes care of his sad boner—shares it with his friends, or his computer or phone is hacked, or someone “borrowing” his computer or phone snoops and finds the photos (POTENTIALLY YEARS DOWN THE LINE! THE INTERNET IS FOREVER, LETTER WRITER! FOOOORRREEEEEVVVVVEERRRRRRR), and you—wherever you may be now or in a few years—may never know when or if you will deal with the fallout.

    The fallout itself? May be of varying degrees and manners of suckitude. Let’s be real: if you are a ladyperson, the sexist, misogynist, shame-obsessed sack of shit patriarchal society we live in is going to invite everyone who knows about your nude photos to look down on you and judge you for doing them. 

    If you’re going to take some nude photos—and there’s nothing whatsoever wrong with taking n00dz, particularly ones in which you take an active role in shooting / developing / styling / posing / printing / disseminating to trusted partners or clients—FOR THE LOVE OF BOUNCING, BUMBLING BABY BOSEPHUS, ONLY TAKE NUDE PHOTOS BECAUSE YOU THINK IT WOULD BE A FUN, SEXY, EMPOWERING THING TO DO THAT YOU LIKE AND ENJOY, and not because some brosef with a boner cajoled you into doing it before you were ready. And hey, you may never be ready. And never being ready is totally fine.

    And after you continue to not send this dude nudes, you need to have a straight talk with him about boundaries. Please tell him, in no uncertain terms, that you will not be providing him with nudes, and that if that means he can’t treat you like a sentient human being who deserves respect and appreciation, you and he are going to stop being “super duper BFF’s” in the shortest of orders. And then stick to that. If he cleans up his selfish act, and quits pressuring you to do things sexually that you don’t want to do and instead treats you in a way that makes you feel happy and fulfilled rather than sad and pressured, then victory is won.

    BUT MOREOVER the Bad Advisor wants to address this couple of lines specifically, wherein you write: "i feel like i disappointed him & i hate letting people down but i dont wanna send nudes :-("

    One of the things that sucks about being a particularly empathetic person, which it sounds like you are, is that you feel like if you like and are nice to someone, they will like and be nice to you back, because you overestimate other people’s capacity for empathy. And then when the other person does horrible, assbaggy shit—like, for example, is mean to you just because you won’t send them nude photos—you project all kinds of REASONS AND RATIONALIZATIONS for why they’re being mean, because you’re continuing to assume that somewhere in there, they’re as nice and kind as you are and they like, accidentally flew into a mean cloud on their way to the Isle Of Not Being A Shithead.

    Maybe you think, “I don’t understand why my super duper BFF is being so mean to me about these nude photos, because we are super duper BFF’s and he is such a great person!” It’s the last bit of that line of thinking that will fuck you up every time.

    When people do and say mean and hurtful things without apologizing and amending later behavior, they are not secret nice people with unfortunate or accidental mean exteriors. They are assholes who use a veneer of niceness to groom and manipulate other people into giving them what they want. You never need worry about letting people like this down.

    People who are nice friends and who are good to you and who care about you will never be let down when you don’t do sexual favors for them.

    TL;DR - Don’t send nudes to this guy, ever. If he can’t fucking deal with it, never talk to him again. There is a world of people out there who don’t hold kindness hostage unless you do something about their stupid boring boners.

    I also espeically like this comment added: “alonelycloud said: As a genuinely nice person, you really hit the nail on the head. It was a hard lesson to learn that most people aren’t as nice or good of a person as I thought. This good advice is good.

     
  3. 15:54 25th Aug 2014

    Notes: 45

    Reblogged from frostedblakes

    frostedblakes:

I think you’re doing it wrong.

Here’s the story behind the image: http://www.dailydot.com/opinion/i-am-woman-you-laughed-at-internet/
For those who don’t care to read the article: Apparently the woman in the picture had done 80 minutes on the the machine prior to this. She changed into her street clothes to finish a marathon of House because she doesn’t have cable at home. She was working out late at night when a bar let out and some boys, laughing, took this picture of her. This was in 2010. In the time it’s been posted to the internet by those boys, her picture has been the subject of a lot of fat-shaming. 

    frostedblakes:

    I think you’re doing it wrong.

    Here’s the story behind the image: http://www.dailydot.com/opinion/i-am-woman-you-laughed-at-internet/

    For those who don’t care to read the article: Apparently the woman in the picture had done 80 minutes on the the machine prior to this. She changed into her street clothes to finish a marathon of House because she doesn’t have cable at home. She was working out late at night when a bar let out and some boys, laughing, took this picture of her. This was in 2010. In the time it’s been posted to the internet by those boys, her picture has been the subject of a lot of fat-shaming. 

     
  4. 19:28 30th Jul 2014

    Notes: 2689

    Reblogged from mussinga

    hoyitspaolo:

    thenewamericanpie:

    A Somalian and Japanese Wedding

    I like the way she smiles up at him.

    So pretty, so cute. I especially like the awkward picture where the bride has to wink because she’s being hugged.

     
  5. 19:23

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    Reblogged from mussinga

    youngblackandvegan:

    the world wasn’t ready for his talent or honesty

    This is especially true when tragedies happen, like the incident in Santa Barbara. People were so quick to dismiss his rampage as him being crazy, so that they don’t have to look at how society has fostered an environment that lets toxic ideas fester and turn into terrible action. 

    (Source: serfbwort)

     
  6. 19:17

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    Reblogged from mussinga

     
  7. 19:14

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    Reblogged from mussinga

    brandieblaze:

    creativelylostinneverland:

    madelinelime:

    When I was a kid I thought your 20s were supposed to be fun, not filled with perpetual anxiety about financial stability and constantly feeling like an unaccomplished piece of shit. 

    That’s because it was fun for baby boomers and they basically gave us this impression it would always be like that, but then they ruined the economy.

    Preach

    Not only did they ruin the economy, they made sure none of us could afford college, homes or cars.

    (Source: curseofthefanartlords)

     
  8. 22:45 29th Jul 2014

    Notes: 1363

    Reblogged from zelinator

    misandry-mermaid:

    Women who claim they haven’t benefited from feminism are like evangelical creationists who claim they haven’t benefited from science. 

     
  9. 22:42

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    Reblogged from etheric-nomad

    1. Socialism: You have 2 cows and you give one to your neighbor.
    2. Communism: You have 2 cows; the Government takes both and gives you some milk.
    3. Fascism: You have 2 cows; the Government takes both and sells you some milk.
    4. Nazism: You have 2 cows; the Government takes both and shoots you.
    5. Bureaucratism: You have 2 cows; the Government takes both, shoots one, milks the other and throws the milk away..
    6. Traditional Capitalism: You have 2 cows. You sell one and buy a bull. You herd multiplies, and the economy grows. You sell them and retire on the income.
    7. An American Corporation: You have 2 cows. You sell one, and force the other to produce the milk of four cows. Later, you hire a consultant to analyze why the cow dropped dead.
    8. A French Corporation: You have 2 cows. You go on strike because you want three cows.
    9. Japanese Corporation: You have 2 cows. You redesign them so they are one-tenth the size of an ordinary cow and produce twenty times the milk. You then create a clever cow cartoon image called Cowkimon and market them Worldwide.
    10. An Italian Corporation: You have 2 cows, but you don't know where they are. You break for lunch.
    11. A Swiss Corporation: You have 5000 cows. None of which belong to you. You charge others for storing them.
    12. Chinese Corporation: You have 2 cows. You have 300 people milking them. You claim full employment, high bovine productivity, and arrest the newsman who reported the numbers.
    13. An Iraqi Corporation: Everyone thinks you have lots of cows. You tell them that you have none. No one believes you and they bomb your arse. You still have no cows, but at least now you are part of a Democracy.......
    14. Counter Culture: 'Wow, dig it, like there's these 2 cows, man, grazing in the hemp field. You gotta have some of this milk!'
    15. Surrealism: You have two giraffes. The government requires you to take harmonica lessons.
    16. Apathyologism: You have 2 cows. You do not care.
    17. Fatalist: You have 2 doomed cows...
    18. Atheism: You have 2 cows. There is no God.
    19. A West-Country Corporation: You have 2 cows. That one on the left is kinda cute.
    20. A Brazilian Corporation: You have 2 cows. You pay taxes for 6 cows. You have to sell one cow in order to pay the taxes. Your remaining cow gets sick and dies while waiting for availability in the public vet hospital.
    21. Russia: You have two cows. Since they are both female, if you happen to keep them in the same stable you will pay a 5,000 rouble fine for homosexual propaganda.
    22. PETA: You have two cows. You kill them both. You then use naked women to convince other people that killing cows is wrong.
    23. Moffat: You have two cows. Both of them are your daughters time traveling from the past where they had a brief love affair with Da Vinci making you the rightful Queen of England. As you assume the throne, you throw them off a building.
    24. Old Spice: You have 2 cows. The cows are now diamonds. I'm on a horse.
    25. An Irish Corporation: You have a million cows because they're everywhere
    26. Night Vale: You do NOT have two cows. Cows do not exist. What's a cow? Show me a cow! That's not a cow! Who let you in here?
    27. Cows: The shit you go through.
    28. This post: Started off as a post that explained different goverments but then everything changed when the fire nation attacked
     
  10. 22:28

    Notes: 21496

    Reblogged from mudkippy

    fishnetandfundip:

captainjaneways-bitch:

rainbowshooterunicornsummoner:

An explanation of what radians measure: the angle in terms of the radius curved around the circle.

holy fucking shit, my entire education has just clicked.

I love seeing things click for other people (especially in math). That instant exhilaration is the reason math and science are fun for me.

    fishnetandfundip:

    captainjaneways-bitch:

    rainbowshooterunicornsummoner:

    An explanation of what radians measure: the angle in terms of the radius curved around the circle.

    holy fucking shit, my entire education has just clicked.

    I love seeing things click for other people (especially in math). That instant exhilaration is the reason math and science are fun for me.

    (Source: xyprogramming)