1. 17:25 19th Mar 2014

    Notes: 157546

    Reblogged from racialicious

    stand-up-comic-gifs:

    Like fiery eyeball thing, no problem. But don’t even try to imagine a Samoan elf. (x)

     
  2. 23:06 6th Mar 2014

    Notes: 153430

    Reblogged from lacigreen

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    viivus:

period thoughts


Interesting period thoughts. Here’s another one: I came across this story on Pharyngula about an Indian man that made sanitary napkins more easily accessible in developing countries. It’s a heartening story.

Edit: oops, here’s the link: freethoughtblogs.com/pharyngula/2014/03/05/crazy-obsessed-weird-perverse/

    viivus:

    period thoughts

    Interesting period thoughts. Here’s another one: I came across this story on Pharyngula about an Indian man that made sanitary napkins more easily accessible in developing countries. It’s a heartening story.

    Edit: oops, here’s the link: freethoughtblogs.com/pharyngula/2014/03/05/crazy-obsessed-weird-perverse/
     
  3. 23:00

    Notes: 290935

    Reblogged from lacigreen

    candiesandwords:

    iSN’T CONSENT BEAUTIFUL

    (Source: stiles-lydia)

     
  4. 22:47

    Notes: 451

    Reblogged from reasoningwithvampires

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    Welcome back. I (and others) missed you and your wit. Hope you’re doing well.

    Welcome back. I (and others) missed you and your wit. Hope you’re doing well.

     
  5. 22:44

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    Reblogged from jelenawoehr

    jelenawoehr:

    Inspired by an epic flounce that I shall not reblog:

    If you never much liked feminism, were reluctant to be called a feminist, didn’t like most feminists, didn’t want to give anything to feminism, were only ever a feminist because other people said you should be, and you spent most of your…

     
  6. 22:37

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    Reblogged from jelenawoehr

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    jelenawoehr:

causewecool:

spankmeagainplease:
Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.--------The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class."Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. My body is not your personal, sexual object. My body does not overshadow my character. My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. My body is not here to look “hot” for you.Next up is “Boys will be boys.”Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.


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The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)




I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.



There is so much wrong with what this principal is doing that I can’t even list it, but yeah here’s your takeaway:
He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 
They are disrespectful because you have specifically told them they can do whatever they want and you will excuse it because they’re boys!
Lakeland Senior High School and his name is Mr. Martinez

You go, young woman. I stood up to my high school principal and won — the story’s still online somewhere, I think. You can, too. Stand up for your rights now and make it a lifelong habit. Fist-bump. 

    jelenawoehr:

    causewecool:

    spankmeagainplease:

    Feel free to sexually harass me if you’re male. You know what they say “Boys will be boys.”. Although I’m not sure any of you will want to do that since I’m not very modest, therefore not attractive.
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    The new principal at my school used two phrases while addressing new dress code rules to a class.

    "Modest is hottest." and "Boys will be boys."

    He should have said something more along the lines of: “The school dress code was established to provide our students with a safe and orderly learning environment that is free from distractions.”

    Let’s start with the phrase “Modest is hottest.” Shall we?

    Modest-Having or showing a moderate estimation of one’s own talents, abilities, and value.

    If modest is hottest, then it’s not modest.

    You are literally sending the message to young girls, who are already struggling with self confidence, that hiding their body makes them more attractive. You are establishing a sense of shame in these young, developing minds and bodies. A human has the right to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. Showing less skin doesn’t make you any more attractive. Showing more skin does not make you any less attractive. When someone calls you attractive that just means that they are attracted to you.

    At what point in your career did you find it appropriate to define my “hotness”? Why are you at all concerned with how “hot” I am? You are teaching us, through modesty, to be objects of sexual arousal. I’m sorry, but I don’t dress myself to look “hot” for anyone. I dress myself as a way of expressing myself and my body. “If covering up my body is supposed to make people sexually/physically attracted to me, then how would those people feel if I decide to have sexual relations with them, without clothes on?” “How am I supposed to love and feel proud of my naked body and develop a sense of sexuality when exposing my body is deemed shameful and unattractive?” Since when should being “hot” be my concern. I don’t want to be with someone who just thinks I’m hot. I want to be with someone who loves and respects all the parts of my mind, personality, and body. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “How to be hot.”.

    My body is not a sinful temptation that needs to be hidden. 
    My body is not your personal, sexual object. 
    My body does not overshadow my character. 
    My body is not any more sexual than a man’s body. 
    My body is not here to look “hot” for you.

    Next up is “Boys will be boys.”

    Being a boy refers to your gender. That’s all.

    It does not make you constantly sexually aroused, animalistic, or sexually uncontrollable, but for some reason society has come to the conclusion that you are this stereotype. This is extremely sad. This gender stereotype is unfair to all men. By telling them who they are as a man you are absolutely taking away their moral agency. “But he’s a teenager. He’s raging with hormones.” You don’t think I’m raging with hormones as well? Believe me I am. Men are not stupid. They are not unable to see when someone is not consenting to sex. It’s not ‘in their nature’ to rape because they are a man, it’s not ‘in their nature’ because IT’S WRONG TO RAPE SOMEONE. Raping someone is a cognitive choice. (how modestly the victim dresses does not affect them being raped). When the few people that do sexually harass people happen to be male and you use the excuse “Boys will be boys.” you are not only excusing their behavior, you are condoning it. It’s this “Boys will be boys.” mentality, culture, and attitude that condone sexual assault. Whenever the excuse “Boys will be boys.” is used, it’s just an exercise of male privilege. It’s this attitude that condones sexual assault. You are giving them a free license that makes it okay for them to be sexually violent, that says “Well I’m a boy, it’s just who I am.” Sex needs to stop being about “no no no bad dirty gross shameful” and start being about “Yes. Let’s have consenting sex because I want to.” Consent. THAT’S what you should be teaching, not “Well you know how they are… Boys will be boys!” 

    Boys are not sexually uncontrollable.
    Boys do not have a genetic, animalistic, violent nature.
    Boys are not born with a natural desire for destruction or control.

    Despite what society and culture keeps trying to cram down everyone’s throat, having a penis doesn’t make it okay to sexually harass someone. The false idea that men can’t control themselves is so unfair and completely ridiculous.
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    The next day He called me down to his office to discuss my concerns. (Students and teachers told him about it, which I expected)
    I spent a good hour and a half arguing with the principle about his comments when he called me down to his office, today. I offered to send him what I posted if he was interested in reading it. He said “No, that won’t be necessary.” I explained to him that I wanted him to read what I wrote and I would appreciate it if he did. He said “No, I don’t really care to read it. That’s okay.”

    I asked him what he meant by the phrase “boys will be boys” and he explained that if a girl is inappropriately dressed that it can lead to inappropriate, sexual touching and staring (sexual harassment). If a boy chooses to sexually harass someone, it’s his choice no matter what his gender is.
    He explained to me that boys are more “wound up” than girls are. I didn’t quite understand what he meant by that so I asked him for a different adjective and after a minute of mumbling he chose the word “aggressive” but then followed that up with “…well I don’t think that’s the correct word to use…”. I agree, not the best word to use, eh? 

    I asked him to explain why boys are different than girls in this regard and he said “Well to start, all boys are attracted to girls…” I interrupted with “No. There are actually boys who are attracted to other boys.” He laughed and said “Oh, yes of course!”… I guess that part must have slipped his mind.

    I asked him, in general, what the difference is between girls and boys. He said that boys “misbehave more” and are “outgoing”. He said that girls are “reserved”. That’s all. That’s the word he used, “reserved”. Boys and girls are different because they have different organs and hormones. Being a girl doesn’t automatically make me reserved. Just like being a boy doesn’t make you automatically misbehave. I explained to him that by using the phrase “Boys will be boys.”, he is excusing and condoning bad behavior from boys, such as sexual harassment and rape. “But that’s not reality, that’s your opinion.” he said. 

    He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.” 

    I told him that the phrases he used were sexist and stereotypical and unfair to all genders. I explained to him that many students and people of society were offended by what he said and the phrases he used. I told him that I thought he should apologize for what he said and explain to students and society that this kind of message is not okay or appropriate.

    He said he wouldn’t apologize for that, but he would give me an apology, which was “I’m sorry you feel that way.” 

    After he dodged almost every question I asked by sharing his plans to improve LHS, he decided that he had had enough of not being able to answer my questions or concerns and ended our discussion by saying “I’m going to end this discussion.” and I was sent back to class.
    There is so much wrong with what this principal is doing that I can’t even list it, but yeah here’s your takeaway:

    He explained that his daughters “behave” and that his nephews were disrespectful… because they are boys. I said “That has nothing to do with their gender. They act that way because of how they were raised, the environment they are living in, and the choices they make.”

    They are disrespectful because you have specifically told them they can do whatever they want and you will excuse it because they’re boys!

    Lakeland Senior High School and his name is Mr. Martinez

    You go, young woman. I stood up to my high school principal and won — the story’s still online somewhere, I think. You can, too. Stand up for your rights now and make it a lifelong habit. Fist-bump. 

    (Source: brunette-nymphette)

     
  7. 22:08

    Notes: 53852

    Reblogged from sameatschildren

    sameatschildren:

    Hi guys I’m obsessed with this shit lately because I don’t want anyone to have unhappy, unsupported boobs like I did. Even if you think your boobs and bras are fine, try it. It will make a big difference in comfort, support, and shape, even if you have small boobs or big boobs. A proper fitting…

    It’s long, but insightful advice about bras.

     
  8. 21:21

    Notes: 149698

    Reblogged from lightspeedsound

    rosalarian:

    Feminism is having a wardrobe malfunction.

    Does your brand of feminism remove barriers for women, or simply move them around? Does is expand options for women, or does it just shift them? You don’t liberate women by forcing them to choose option B instead of option A. What is comfortable for you might not be comfortable for someone else, and it’s entirely possible that what you see as oppressive, other women find comfortable or even downright liberating.

    Before you think the girl in the middle is a strawman, let me tell you I used to be her, back in my misguided youth. I considered myself the standard to which other people should adhere. But that was stupid. It’s not up to me to tell people how to dress, and it’s much nicer to let everyone choose for themselves.

    Some women would feel naked without a veil. Some women would find it restrictive. Some women would feel restricted by a bra. Some women would feel naked without one. Some women would feel restricted by a tight corset. Others love them. Some wear lots of clothes with a corset. Some only wear the corset and nothing else. What makes any article of clothing oppressive is someone forcing you to wear it. And it’s just as oppressive to force someone not to wear something that they want to wear.

     
  9. 21:08

    Notes: 255107

    Reblogged from thefrogman

    thefrogman:

    Skinny by M [tumblr]

     
  10. 20:59

    Notes: 76830

    Reblogged from eschergirls

    eschergirls:

    theysayimpsychodiaries:

    Chimamanda Adichie - The Danger of a Single Story (TED Talks 2009)

    Tell me again, what did you say about representation not being important?

    Reblogging this because I think this is a good example of the power of the narratives we grow up absorbing (& still absorb now as adults) and how that affects the way we see the world, how we place people (and ourselves) in the world, and who we expect to see (and thus write into our own stories) in certain roles.  This is similar to another post I’ve reblogged about how people write certain tropes and narratives because “that’s just what you do”.  And it extends to other creative expressions too, like how you portray characters in illustrated or interactive media (comics, video games).

    To put it in the context of what’s discussed on this blog, if you grow up on women being portrayed in a certain way, you’re going to not think twice when you write your own story about portraying them that way because that’s just “what you do”, that’s just what seems “natural” and “right” to you.  It’s why there’s so much midriff-baring armor for women out there, or high heeled boots on female warriors, or boobs and butt battle poses.  It’s also why the “average” woman portrayed in fiction is so far from average that it’s skewing our own internal idea of what “thin” and “thick” women look like.  Sometimes it’s a conscious effort (by the illustrator or their editor) to sexualize them, and sometimes it’s just what we’re used to, so we do it.  It’s just how we’re used to seeing women fighters, so when we draw them we do what we’re used to seeing.

    And it’s the same with the representation of other groups (and remember, these groups overlap). The way we write and draw trans people is influenced by how we’re taught to think of trans people, and those narratives are usually informed by the media we consume.  The same as how “western” nations think of Asia, or Africa.  What we imagine those places are like in our mind’s eye.  We “know” what these places are like, what queer people are like,  what heroes are like, who fights dragons, who gets rescued, etc, because of how the media portrays these things.  It’s all around us, and we don’t have to consciously want to do these things to do them, because it’s just what seems “right” and “natural” and “automatic”.

    That’s why it’s also important to challenge ourselves in our growth as consumers of product, and as creators of future product.  Why do we “know” what we know?  Is this actually the only way to do things, or just the way we’re used to seeing it done?  And it’s important for us to actively seek out for ourselves, different ideas, different narratives, and different perspectives, and to consider what kinds of messages we want to send with our own work.  Because, just like we grew up with the narratives that taught us “how things are” in a certain way, future children will grow up with the narratives we contribute to, and it will affect what they “know” about their place in the world, what roles they get to be and don’t get to be, whose stories are being told, and who only matters as an object or gimmick within that story.

    (Source: firstenchanters)